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.Strikewhile the iron is hot!19) Get her Thinking about You when she's Alone.That's right, you're noteven around for this last step! People fall in love when they re off by themselves.Love san internal process that goes on in the absence of the person who is the focus of youraffection.Why do you think women fall in love with rock stars and movie actors fromafar? Because they feel they know them somehow through their music or performances.Psychological connection, baby!Your only real task on any first encounteris to plant the seed of romantic possibility in her mind!Okay, here are all the highlights of Essential Flirting laid out for you in  cheatsheet format:Get Caught LookingSnap Your Anchor  Post-fuck VisualGet a  GO SignalSmile and Make Verbal ContactExchange Names -- The Handshake TrickSeek out Common InterestsGet a LifeLineUse Clever HumorMirror her Thinking-Style to Establish RapportOffer One Sincere Compliment using her NameTouch her at least once Non-offensivelyBe a  Personal Space InvaderQuit while you're ahead!(Chap 5 -- Pg.162)Without EmbarrassmentEssential FlirtingAnd so there you have it.These are the major things to keep in mind when you retrying to meet a woman.I know it can be a lot to remember in a pinch when your heart ispounding and your nervousness makes it difficult to think straight.That s why you needto train ahead of time so that you don t have to depend upon your rickety consciousmind to do the job.Consciousness is vulnerable to interference from fear.you mustlearn to rely on your subconscious mind instead.The best way to fix these steps into your subconscious mind is to write them outfor yourself in longhand.Print them on a small card that you can keep in your wallet,and get in the habit of reading through them whenever you get a chance.Burn them intoyour brain at least once a day for a month or so.Twenty-one days of repeatedexposure to any sort of new idea permanently fixes it into your deep, reflexive memory.And finally, the most important step of all.Have Fun! Central to all thedifficulty that you ve been having is the fact that fear and shame have turned the entireprocess of meeting women into a deadly serious burden for you.Once you learn to stepaway from all that toxic shame bullshit and discover how to achieve a more light-heartedapproach towards everything, the game of seduction and romance returns to what it wasalways meant to be.fun!(Chap 5 -- Pg.163)f you re the kind of guy like I used to be who was so totally stymied by hisinability to get beyond his fear of rejection that it was impossible to even thinkIabout getting a date with a woman, there s a tendency to believe that if youcould only somehow, someway get through this wall of impenetrable terror that all therest of it will be simple by comparison and would pretty much take care of itself.Nothing could be farther from the truth.It turns out that your challenges are only justbeginning once you ve gotten past the stage of making initial contact with a woman.No matter how favorable a first impression you make, it only really just gets yourfoot in the door -- gets you an  audition.Now the real work begins.One of my majorproblems once I started successfully moving past my paralyzing fear of rejection, wasthat I couldn t figure out how to get any passion stirred up between us that wouldeventually lead to the bedroo164m, which -- let s not forget -- is supposed to be thewhole point of going through all this agony in the first place!My maddening failure was that I always ended upbeing friends instead of lovers.The hated  buddyville dilemma! This problem was a real curse for me.I vealready had a lot to say about it in previous chapters.drawing upon my frustration andanger as my muse, which often finds vent in this writing project! I finally came to theconclusion that there exists a series of critical steps and behaviors that you must alwaysbe aware of -- along with the proper timing and sequence to perform these steps in -- ifyou re going to have any hope of turning a girl onto you sexually.Look, we all know there are jokers roaming around out there who have absolute(Ch.6 -- Pg.164)Without EmbarrassmentClosing the Saleballs of brass when it comes to approaching women, but still only manage to get laidmaybe one out of every 20 tries or so.That s because a lot of them don t know exactlywhat steps have to come next in the game, and how important those steps are to theoverall scheme of a well thought out seduction.Again, because the fear of rejectionseems so insurmountable to guys like you and me, we think that if we can just get aroundthis life-murdering fear the rest of it will be a cakewalk.Not a chance.Once you vefought mightily to get over your rejection fear, you re really in no better shape than theguy I just described who never had this kind of massive rejection fear stopping him in thefirst place, but still gets nowhere with most of the women he moves on!Sheesh! What a pain in the ass this seduction stuff is! Once we get over our fearof attempting it, now we ve got to actually demonstrate some skill and knowledge to close the sale and maneuver her into a sexual relationship! I guess it s really nodifferent than learning to fly an airplane or something  once we get over our fear offlying so that we can climb into the cockpit, now we ve got to actually learn what thehell all those switches and controls do! Becoming a pilot requires a certain degreecourage to even attempt at first, and then the proper training and acquisition of actualskills to complete the job afterwards.Welcome to flight school 101.If I could sum up the gist of what is most important to understand from the lastchapter, it would simply be this: women are far more interested in how you makethem feel than what you look like.Of course, this assumes that you aren t completelyoff the scale in terms of physical or hygienic grotesqueness.But if you re a fairly decentlooking guy who s clued in on how to take care of himself and doesn t flat out reek, thenyou should begin to see your shyness and reluctance to approach women as having adiminishing basis in reality.Here s an important thing to understand: that, for women,it s all about emotions and feelings, and especially how a particular man makes themfeel about herself and about her life.In a seduction all your efforts will be focused oncreating the intense feelings and emotional states within her that she craves from a(Ch.6 -- Pg.165)Without EmbarrassmentClosing the Saleman.It isn t all that mysterious once you obtain a clear understanding of just what thoseneeds are, and how to go about fulfilling them with your behaviors and attitudes.If you can get her to see you as the pathway to achieving all those desires, thenyou are home free as far as drawing her into your web of seduction.In fact she willgladly leap into your web!The time has come to step back and expand our view of things.We ve dealt withthe most troublesome aspect of seducing women for many of you, the actual act ofapproaching and speaking to them.Since it is highly unlikely that she s going to jumpyour bones in the street a few minutes after you ve first met her, we must continue toescalate the process of psychologically bonding her to us until we reach that pointwhere she decides to transform the relationship into a full blown sexual romance.Layerby layer we build a foundation for the two of you to stand upon -- bit by bit we draw herinto our lives and vice-versa [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]